Be patient with yourself.
If you have had an abusive or traumatic past, its gonna take time to change your negative associations to the holidays into positive ones. Don’t expect too much change too quickly. People often quote me as saying: “Healing is a lifelong journey.” Be encouraged that part of that journey may include reworking and recreating holiday associations and traditions… that takes time… find some peace in that.
As you begin to restructure what the holidays look like for you, pay attention to your heart and your overall health. If you haven’t done so already, consider making some plans to NOT have any plans. Schedule in time each week for your own rest, reflection and replenishing.
Oftentimes it isn’t the actual holiday that is most stressful and difficult, but the weeks leading up to it. Be patient with yourself by not pressuring yourself to perform or be perfect. Make a commitment to not overdo it. Today would be a good day to look at your schedule and postpone some items that can wait until after the holidays. Personal quiet time is vital this week.
I pray you encounter peace and joy as you patiently and lovingly care for yourself and your schedule this holiday season.