April 2012
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Moving On: A Letter to Moms/Dads, from Nicole's...
Moms,
What breaks my heart most about childhood sexual abuse, besides the abuse itself, is that very few mothers are willing to come to the aid of their child after discovering he/she has been sexually abused. After hearing countless testimonies of victims, it is obvious that this parental betrayal becomes more difficult of a wound to heal than the sexual abuse itself. We are the number one...
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Poem from a Survivor and a Hero
You taught me how to watch for shadows on the wall
How to listen to the door creak call
To close my eyes when your darkness falls
To lock eyes with one of my play damaged dolls
Become a burden to my own hearts tolls
And I should like to hate you
But your teachings lost their grainy grasp
The loudness of your lies faded to a rasp
Nightmares of choking dimmed now to a clasp
Mere mention of...
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Common Signs of Sexual Abuse
Remember that these signs could mean a number of things and point to a variety of stressful situations, including divorce, death of a pet or loved one, problems at school or with friends, etc. Any single sign a child exhibits doesn’t mean that a child was definitely sexually abused, but the presence of several of them should definitely motivate you to begin asking questions and consider...
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“When churches try to cover up sexual sin to protect their reputation or sources...”
– Nicole Bromley, (Breathe, pages 110-111)
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WM Spotlight: Interview with Nicole Bromley (Part... →
Intro from Wonderfully Made: We’re back with more on Nicole Bromley, the incredibly inspiring motivational speaker and author who founded OneVOICE Enterprises. In the previous post, we learned about Nicole’s past and the events that led up to the creation of her foundation. Now we get to take a look into Nicole’s life as a mentor, a speaker, an author, and a leader.
P.S. Not only is this woman...
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Hear from a Hero: Nicole's Mom, Cindy
As Nicole’s mom, I am still amazed when I reflect on the impact of just one of our many mother-daughter conversations. In July of 1994, Nicole confided that my husband had been sexually abusing her.
It was the worst thing I could ever imagine happening to my daughter, to me, to our family. In fact, I could not comprehend how it happened. I was a stay-home mom with a home-based business. We...
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WM Spotlight: Nicole Bromley (Part One) by Rachel... →
NOTE FROM ALLIE: Hey Girls! We’re so excited to feature our dear friend Nicole Bromley for our newest “WM Spotlight.” Nicole and I first got connected 5 years ago when I invited her to speak at our SCU Chapter’s annual spring event. Since then myself and our team have been absolutely smitten with her. Though we’re separated by dozens of states and thousands of miles...
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Talking to your child if you suspect that they are... →
A link to info that may be helpful to parents on talking to a child about concerns of sexual abuse.
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“Child molesters are very professional at what they do and they do a good job at...”
– –Convicted child molester (in Anne Salter’s book, Predators: Pedophiles, Rapists, And Other Sex Offenders)
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"9 Questions Parents Need to Ask When Selecting a...
(From StopItNow!)
Choosing a school or program is one of the most complicated and emotional decisions you have to make as a parent. The specific activities, the schedule, the costs, how it matches your child’s needs and interest— all these things play a part in your decision. Whether or not the school has a child sexual abuse prevention policy needs to be a consideration.
Nine Questions...
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The National Human Trafficking Resource Center...
The National Human Trafficking Resource Center (NHTRC) is a national, toll-free hotline, available to answer calls from anywhere in the country, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, every day of the year.
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WatchNicole did a short 2 part interview during her visit to Waco, Texas last week.
Watch her talking with Ke’Sha Lopez in PART 1 of the “Moms Everyday” show…
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WatchNicole interviews with Ke’Sha Lopez in PART 2 on the “Moms Everyday” show…
April question
Today I just want to pose a question for some reader feedback. Feel free to answer anonymously!
If you are a survivor, who in your life is the person you feel most comfortable talking to about your abuse? (i.e. a friend, mom, spouse, counselor, coach, etc)
And what is it about him/her that makes them the person you go to?
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Sample Chapters of Nicole's book BREATHE →
A least one out of every three women and one out of every six men have experienced some form of sexual abuse. Regardless of the circumstances of the violation, every survivor can attest that it will impact relationships with parents, friends, spouses, children, and God. Sexual abuse survivors are often left feeling isolated and without anyone to trust. But it does not have to be this way.
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Become An Online Hotline Volunteer →
The National Sexual Assault Online Hotline, operated by RAINN, provides live, secure, anonymous crisis support to the growing number of people who prefer communicating online through a simple instant message interface — giving those affected by sexual assault a safe place to turn when they can’t find their voice.
It’s easy to help! Follow the link above and get started!
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"It’s time … to talk about consent." →
Consent is essential in all healthy sexual interactions. It is important to understand what consent is, as well as what consent looks like. This fact sheet will provide information, tips and resources about consent.
Follow the link above to read more from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center.
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Support the SAFER act →
What is the SAFER Act?
The SAFER Act, H.R. 1523, is a no-cost bill that will create the Sexual Assault Forensic Evidence Registry (SAFER), which will track the status of DNA evidence collected in rape cases (commonly known as rape kits).
Why We Need It:
There’s a huge backlog of DNA evidence from unsolved rape cases that has never been sent to the lab for analysis. Until we test this evidence...
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“MYTH: The child is somehow responsible for the abuse.
FACT: The child is NEVER,...”
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Childhelp National Day of Hope
Child abuse is against the law in every state, but it is simply not enough to stop this growing epidemic. Each day in the United States, more than five children die of abuse or neglect in the home. Every year, approximately 3.3 million reports are made, with actual abuse incidences estimated to be three times greater than this number. If we are to change these tragic statistics, everyone must play...
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“MYTH: Talking to children about sexual abuse will only frighten them.
FACT:...”
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97 of Every 100 Rapists Receive No Punishment...
My friends at RAINN shared this article this week:
Only three out of every 100 rapists will ever spend even a single day in prison, according to a new analysis by RAINN of Justice Department data. The other 97 will walk free, facing no consequences for the violent felony they have committed. Because rapists tend to be serial criminals, this leaves communities across the nation at risk of...
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APRIL is about AWARENESS
April is both our National Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month and our National Child Abuse Prevention Month. Needless to say it is a very important chunk of the year for us at OneVOICE. As founder of the organization and as a survivor of sexual abuse myself, I felt compelled to share tidbits on the blog every day this month as a way of keeping awareness and prevention alive.
If you...
