December 2010
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“Christmas is the end of thinking you are better than someone else, because...”
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Holiday Survival 101: Day 13, Merry Christmas!
What matters.
I received a text a couple nights ago from a friend—she was giving her daughter a bath when her girl suddenly looked up and said “Jesus is comin, but He not a baby anymo.” This might sound crazy to you, maybe prophetic, possibly neither, but the point is that she was excited…and according to the Word of God, she was also correct!
This weekend we celebrate...
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Holiday Survival 101: Day 12
Make room.
One the Eve before Christmas I sit in the upper room of my parents’ home, looking down at the infant boy sleeping next to me. The beauty of my son astounds me. And I am not a “baby person” if you know what I mean. But that piece doesn’t come into play when you have had this precious one forming inside of your womb for nine months.
I will never forget when one...
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Holiday Survival 101: Day 11
Love. Commit. Endure. Give.
This holiday season is not about what you do, where you go, what you eat. It’s not about what you bought. It’s not even about who you were with. It’s about how you loved, how much you loved and how you gave away that love.
I realize that loving others might feel like the last thing you want to do right now: you may be feeling depressed, rejected,...
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Holiday Survival 101: Day 10
Just a couple quick ones today…
Understand your priorities. Know your personal limits. Set boundaries with respect to both this week.
Remember: it can be good and healthy to say “no” to others. And it can be good and healthy to say “yes” to yourself.
And, lastly, SMILE…for no good reason!
If someone asks, “Why are you smiling like that?” Answer...
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Holiday Survival 101: Day 9
Reach out and welcome in.
During the holiday season we see suicide rates rise, alcoholics fall off the wagon and marriages crumble. Everyone is trying to survive the holiday…but many are not doing it well. If we want to not only survive the holiday season, but to thrive in it, we need to consider ways we can make the holiday better for someone else.
If you have decided to set a boundary...
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Holiday Survival 101: Day 8
Focus on today.
As survivors of abuse, we are easily tempted to look at our past in a way that can drown us in feelings of regret, resent and remorse—especially during the holidays or special milestones. Although I recognize the importance of looking back in order to move forward (I talk about this process a great deal in both of my books), I want to challenge you today to focus more on the...
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Holiday Survival 101: Day 7
Be a kid again.
“Sometimes I wish I were a kid again; skinned knees are a lot easier to fix than a broken heart.” (Unknown Author)
Let’s all commit to play—and play hard—this weekend! Think back to an activity you loved as a child, one that you never engage in anymore. And then go do it! Be spontaneous. I don’t care if it you have to go buy a fresh new set of Lincoln...
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Holiday Survival 101: Day 6
Call it like it is.
I am sitting in my living room, next to the baby swing, hoping the constant movement along with soft Christmas music playing in the background will put my 3 month-old to sleep so I can get a moment of “Nicole time.” It’s not working, by the way. But the song playing right now is telling me that “it’s the most wonderful time of the year”;...
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Holiday Survival 101: Day 5
Sweatpants.
Yeah, I’m serious. In my opinion they are one of the greatest things ever invented—next to air conditioning and peanut butter, of course. This is why you must get yourself into some today. Find a fresh pair of the most comfy ones around, or opt for some footed pajamas (yes, they come in adult sizes now! I checked), go curl up somewhere that feels safe, cozy and quiet, and...
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Holiday Survival 101: Day 4
You have the power to choose.
Like me, many of you had an abuser who was also a parent in your home. If this is the case, know that you are not alone in the anxiety you may feel around the holidays. As a child, this was a period of time when you had no place to go. While your classmates were looking forward to a break from school, you were dreading it. While your friends were relaxing in their...
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Holiday Survival 101: Day 3
Be patient with yourself.
If you have had an abusive past, its gonna take time to change your negative associations to the holidays into positive ones. Don’t expect too much change too quickly. People often quote me as saying: “Healing is a lifelong journey.” Be encouraged that part of that journey may include reworking and recreating holiday associations and traditions…...
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Holiday Survival 101: Day 2
Create new traditions.
A fave quote from one of my fave movies, Elf, goes like this: ”We elves try to stick to the four main food groups: candy, candy canes, candy corn and syrup.”
Some of us are like Buddy the Elf, preferring to stick to the same things every holiday season: the same cookies, the same music, the same decorations, the same outings, with the same people, in the...
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When Holiday = Hole of a Day
Whether it’s the added poundage put on from consuming one too many egg nog shakes from the Mickey-D’s drive-thru, or whether it’s more serious like grief, loneliness, triggers or anxiety coming from circumstances such as loss, addiction or abuse… the holidays, for some of us, can… well… SUCK.
Just tryin to keep it real here…
I have found that, for many...
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Ohio Passes Trafficking Law -- HOLLA!
Before today, if a child victim of sex trafficking in my home state of Ohio were to seek out help from authorities, they would have likely been prosecuted for prostitution. It has made me more than sick and I thank God that something official has finally been done to change this!
Today, the Ohio State Senate passed legislation to make human trafficking a stand-alone felony, which will aid in...
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Facebook Comics
At first, I thought it strange that friends on Facebook would be changing their profile to cartoon characters. Even more awkward to me was finding out it was to raise awareness of child abuse.
Having a fake picture of yourself raises red flags for me in regard to child abuse…especially using a cartoon as your picture. I guess I know far too much about cartoons being used as a lure by sexual...
